I am deciding to make the "Be Honest" topic a series. In my experience, it is really hard for people to be honest about a number of things. Growing up the majority of Americans are taught to be honest the moment we understand the concept. But somewhere along the way many of us lose the value of being honest, especially when it comes to our friendships.
Friends are very important, however keeping them seems to be really hard sometimes. In high school and even college our friends and social status are very important, but as we mature we find that friendships either evolve throughout the years or just disappear. Part of the problem is friends just can't seem to be honest with one another. For whatever reason is it always seems to be one person that is not being honest. For example, a major problem is standing up a friend when you have plans without calling or providing some kind of explanation. Throughout my lifetime, this has always been a problem for me. I seem to have had a lot of flaky friends that can never be committed to our friendships. I used to be really hurt because they would never call to cancel they just wouldn't show up. I used call asking them what happen and why they didn't call me to cancel. If they would just call then things would be fine it's called common courtesy. But in reality, if they were true friends they would have called and said "sorry I have to cancel our plans" and honestly any reason would be fine. However, this was never the case with people I thought were my friends. I would call and say "I have been waiting for 2 hrs are you coming still?" and they would back peddle to find answers. I used to go this through this numerous times. Until I was feed up, I used to get mad and sometimes I would do the same to them so they could see how it feels. When it comes down to it they just didn't get it because I was making friends with a lot of self absorbed people and things needed to change. These so called friends were friends because I was convenient for them, but the moment I needed them they were never there. Like I said in my first blog everyone comes to me for help and advice because I go out of my way to help people. Friendships are two way streets and not one sided. I was tired of giving and giving, so instead of getting angry I just stopped calling them. I stopped being available.
My true friends are the people I can count on to be honest with me through any situation even if it hurts to hear their honesty. These people are only a handful, the rest I just consider acquaintances or casual friends. Honesty is the glue that holds a friendship together and without it friendships do not survive.
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